Throughout the years, the perception of sexuality has changed in the pop-culture. Appropriate behavior is now discarded for something that is described as ‘honesty’, though it is depravity in the truest sense. What many believe to be an urge to be true to oneself is actually the urge to sin, to lust, and to deprive the body of another individual. Sexual exploration is encouraged, the average age that teens lose their virginity is falling, and immorality has become popular among the millennial generation. More nudity is shown in films than ever before, pornography has a wider distribution than ever before, and the most popular songs detail the lust within the heart of the artist.
Songs such as Can’t Keep My Hands to Myself, All About that Bass, and Blurred Lines (all of which came out this past decade) worry me to the extent of how perverted our culture has become. However, one song that I couldn’t forget was Ed Sheeran’s Don’t. The song was unbelievable concerning the perverted language. Here is an excerpt from his song (excuse the content and the language as I am trying to illustrate a point):
I met this girl late last year
She said don’t you worry if I disappear
I told her I’m not really looking for another ‘mistake’
I called an old friend thinking that the trouble would wait
But then I jump right in a week later return
I reckon she was only looking for a lover to burn…
I went away for months until our paths crossed again
She told me I was never looking for a ‘friend’
Maybe you could swing by my room around 10
Baby bring a lemon and a bottle of gin
We’ll be in between the sheets until the late AM
Baby if you wanted me then you should’ve just said…
Don’t f*** with my love
That heart is so cold, all over my arm
I don’t wanna know that babe
Don’t f*** with my love
I told her she knows; take aim and reload
I don’t wanna know that babe
This is the world we live in. The world which many Christians have ignored is right outside our doorsteps, in most teens’ Spotify and iTunes playlists, and is creeping into places I wouldn’t have dared to imagine. One night stands, prostitution, homosexuality, transsexuality, pansexuality, open-marriages, etc. are all things that I would’ve never expected, but I should’ve. This is the world without Christ, and in it will be nothing but wickedness and adultery. However, that is not even what troubles me. That is not enough to make me lose sleep at night. What I fear, is what Paul feared in 2 Corinthians 12:21 (ESV): “I fear that when I come again my God may humble me before you, and I may have to mourn over many of those who sinned earlier and have not repented of the impurity, sexual immorality, and sensuality that they have practiced.”
Like Paul, I fear what is occurring among people who claim to be Christians, and those who are regular attendees of local churches. We have become more tolerant towards LGBT behavior and lifestyles (claiming to do it in the name of love), we have abandoned the family structure laid out in the Bible, we have allowed young teens to date too early, we have become lenient on masturbation, we have encouraged birth control without asking if it was biblical, we have ignored the subject of biblical masculinity and femininity, and we have been silent on the porn epidemic. In fear of driving away church members, or believing that the message isn’t ‘relevant’ (I hate that word), we have allowed ourselves to believe that sexuality shouldn’t be defined by Scripture.
Most conservative Evangelicals will not go past condemning homosexuality, and remain in the mediocre state as teens in church watch porn, make out with their girlfriends, and even have pre-marital sex. This is not a game; the Bible is very clear on the issue of sexual sin in 1 Corinthians 6:18 (ESV), “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.” It is a dangerous sin, and it can be likened to playing with a rattlesnake, dangerous and stupid.
This is creeping in to the local churches, and it is becoming mainstream over time. Hillsong has grown tolerant towards the LGBT community, Paula White encouraged ‘sexual exploration’ on the pulpit, and over 50% pastors have admitted to watching porn at least once a week. Why have we been silent? Are we better than Paul that we feel that we don’t need to speak out against sexual immorality, especially when it concerns the body of Christ? Are pastors not aware of how many ‘Christian’ guys lose their virginity by the age of 17, 70% likely to be addicted to porn, and are probably making out with their girlfriends after church? Are pastors’ wives aware that many ‘Christian’ girls lose their virginity by the age of 14, that many have abortions, and that they are going through one of the greatest spiritual famines (concerning biblical teaching) in Church history?
People have forgotten one true fact laid out in 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (ESV), which should be enough for us to understand the importance of the matter at hand, “Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” The body, designed for God’s glory, is being used for other means. This culture says that you should give your body whatever it craves, and give in to its lusts, but I must stand up and say no. Rather than churches preaching about how to have a proper diet or a specific lifestyle, all bound together by legalism, I desire that churches begin preaching discipline in Christ, as we need it now more than ever.
Have we forgotten that Christ is at the center of it all? Have we forgotten that there are lost souls, that there are ‘Christians’ who are perverting our true flock, and that there are struggling believers who are confused? What I fear is not that the world will insult me for what I believe, or kill me for the name of Christ, but my fear is that more and more people don’t repent from this sin, but continue to live in it. It pains my heart when a friend calls me late at night to repent of watching porn only ten minutes prior. It hurts me when I have to comfort a girl who was taken advantage of by a guy. It fills me with torment when you know a person who, not being disciplined in Christ enough to hold his sexual desires and curiosity any longer, called in an escort to lose his virginity.
This is reality. This is what is going on. My fears are becoming too real for me everyday, and I can’t take it when pastors, evangelists, bloggers, authors, theologians, etc. sit back and watch this all happen.
I urge pastors to educate us on the pulpit concerning a biblical understanding of sexuality. I want to beg youth pastors to start enforcing biblical principles with the youth and to separate the goats from the sheep when necessary. I want to urge theologians to begin writing more about these things, as we are a confused generation who learn more about sex from porn videos than our parents or the Scriptures. May God help the Church shed light on the issues at hand, and may the Church be bold as to confront these issues that plague the hearts of believers in this generation.
Soli Deo Gloria.